How do we feel about Anya sexuality/ romantic head cannons??

To be clear this is mainly about lesbian hc for her. I like the idea, I see the vision. However, some of you guys give the vibe of “she was hurt by a man, therefore she can’t be attracted to men.” I’m not sure if this is just me reading people wrong(I struggle with that lol) or if this is an actual issue? I’m also just curious to see other people’s opinions on this. She’s one of my favorite characters from any media ever. I just don’t feel right giving her a hc like that😭😭

I do think she’s the type to want a stable life before seriously dating anyone.