Unsatisfied with my vanilla boyfriend

My (20) and boyfriend (28) of 3 months, have an okay sex life. He is vanilla while I’m very adventurous. He is my second partner ever and sometimes I can’t help but compare our bedroom experience to my ex’s. I understand this is very toxic. But within these whole 3 months he has failed to make me orgasm, I tell him what I need and he fails to do it. I try to get him to finger me and he stops every 20-30 seconds , I tell him to dirty talk and he makes fake unpleasant sounds, I tell him to go google how to give oral sex…he says he already knows. He doesn’t. He literally gave me two awkward licks (imagine licking an icecream ) and called it oral. He doesn’t want to try anything new. He doesn’t seem to take my needs as serious as he pretends to. He even said that we should reduce our sex after I bought this up to him several times. The sex itself is good but only he finishes. This has me reminiscing about what I once had and I know it’s unhealthy, I don’t know what to do.

I don’t want to leave him because he’s a very sweet man but sex with him is so pointless.